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My wish is to be --------

Tue, 29 Jun 2010 13:11:11 +0100

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My wish is to be:

LOVE - So that I ensure that noone's heart gets hurt.

PEACE - In order to silence that constant chatter in people's minds that causes them turmoil.

HAPPINESS- So that I engulf the lives of everyone and eliminate the word sadness from the face of the earth.

LIFE - In order that all those who are dying maybe reborn.

SUCCESS - So that I reward the hard workers.

THE CHRISTIAN FAITH - In order that I encourage Christlike behaviour.

WISDOM - So that I can be the mind opener to the unwise.

TRUTH - In order that I expose the wolves in sheep clothing and the skeletons in the cupboards.

A TEAR - So that insensitive hearts can cry.

A SMILE - In order that I spread a cheer on people's faces and remove all those frowns.

POLITICS - In order that I make politics a fair game.

TRUST - so that I make everybody trustworthy.

HOPE - so that I lift the spirits of all those in despair.

GOOD HEALTH - in order that noone will be sick.

INTEGRITY - so that I engulf the lives of all business people so that they conduct their businesses with integrity.

PURITY - In order that I make all men and women pure.

FOOD - so that I pour into poor people's homes like rain and save all those living in porverty who do not have enough to eat.

KNOWLEDGE - in order that I give all struggling countries the know-how of sustainable growth and development.

TECHNOLOGY- so that I bridge the digital divide between the have and the have-nots.

PRESIDENT OF THE WORLD-so that I heal the world and make it a haven of peace, love and happiness for everyone.

But I am glad I am me, I have the greatest love of all, I love myself.

I am alive, God was there when it happened

Thu, 24 Jun 2010 08:05:29 +0100

The picture you are looking at above, was taken by a professional police photographer. After developing the pictures the officer found what looked like some type of figure in one shot. Thinking it was a problem with his camera or film, he performed tests on both. They both checked out perfectly! Miraclously the people in this car, walked away without so much as a single scratch.

I will not preach about this, some situations just leave you speechless, words would
spoil the situation, no words can ever be adequate to comment on this presence of God
at a time when he was needed most. Need I repeat that glory be to God always.

The secret of life revealed in MAYBES

Thu, 17 Jun 2010 14:34:13 +0100

MAYBE
Maybe. . .we were supposed to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift.

Maybe . . . when the door of happiness closes, another opens; but, often times, we look so long at the closed door that we don't even see the new one which has been opened for us.

Maybe . . . it is true that we don't know what we have until we lose it, but it is also true that we don't know what we have been missing until it arrives.

Maybe . . . the happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Maybe . . . the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; after all, you can't go on successfully in life until you let go of your past mistakes, failures and heartaches.

Maybe . . . you should dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go, be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you dream of, and want to do.

Maybe . . . there are moments in life when you miss someone -- a parent, a spouse, a friend, a child -- so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real, so that once they are around you appreciate them more.

Maybe . . . the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

Maybe . . . you should always try to put yourself in others' shoes. If you feel
that something could hurt you, it probably will hurt the other person, too.

Maybe . . . you should do something nice for someone every single day, even if it is simply to leave them alone.

Maybe. . .giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back. Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart; but, if it doesn't, be content that it grew in yours.

Maybe . . . happiness waits for all those who cry, all those who hurt, all those who have searched, and all those who have tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched their lives.

Maybe . . . you shouldn't go for looks; they can deceive; don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.

Maybe . . you should hope for enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to make you happy

Maybe . . . you should try to live your life to the fullest because when you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling but when you die, you can be the one who is smiling and everyone around you crying.

My happiness depends on me.

Thu, 03 Jun 2010 11:41:43 +0100

After I wrote the previous article on this blog entitled, "My heart has finally found a home," I got a lot of phone calls from concerned and curious friends and relatives asking me if my heart had settled for something that truly makes me happy. I surprised most of them with my answer, "Noone or nothing makes me happy, I make myself happy."

I am not sure if most of them understood what I meant by that brief reply but what I mean is that the fact that I am happy or not doesn't depend on anyone or anything, but on me. I am the only person upon which my happiness depends. I make the choice to be happy in each situation and in each moment of my life. If my happiness where to depend on other people, on other things or circumstances on the face of the earth, I would be in serious trouble because then my happiness would behave like a yo-yo and result in me being classified as emotionally unstable. Everything that exists in this life changes continually, humans, wealth, my body, the climate, pleasures, etc, I could enumerate an infinite list and the secret to constant happiness is to continue being happy amidst the changes in life, inspite of the changes in life. I vowed to myself that I would base my happiness on a constant in my life so that I am happy all the time and the only constant in my life is myself so I base my happiness on myself. Just as a router running the OSPF routing protocol chooses to get the router ID from an always stable loopback interface.

If I was married or had a love partner it would not be the responsibility of my partner to make me happy, he has his own happiness to think of. I would love him and he would love me and that is inspite of his circumstances, experiences and issues and of mine. He changes, I change, the environment changes, everything changes but the only thing that we would agree would not change between us is the love we would have for each other, that would make us feel secure that our hearts have finally found permanent homes in each other. Dealing with the big and little changes in our lives together, facing them with the love that exist in each one of us, with love and forgiveness the changes will only be "experiences, circumstances and issues," that enrich and strengthen our love. Inspite of the changes in life we would vow to be happy with ourselves all the time.

There are those who say, "I can not be happy because I have no money, because I am not married, because of an unsatisfying job, because someone stopped loving me or because someone didn't appreciate me. What these people don't know is that they can be happy even when they have no money, are not married, have an unsatisfying job or they feel unloved by someone or unappreciated by someone because being happy is an attitude about life and each one of us decides what attitude about life we want to have.

I CHOOSE TO JOURNEY THROUGH LIFE WITH A HAPPY ATTITUDE, MY HAPPINESS DEPENDS ON ME AND NOT ON ANYONE.

My heart has finally found a home.

Sat, 22 May 2010 12:59:30 +0100

UNEXPRESSABLE FEELINGS THAT BRING TEARS TO MINE EYES, FOR THEY BUT MY POOR HEART FLOOD, WITH ECSTACY ICED WITH TINGLING PAIN.
SHOULD I LAUGH AND CLING OR SHOULD I BOW AND CRY, YET IN ME JOY AND PEACE OVERFLOW MY HEART, FOR IT HAS FOUND A HOME.
IN ME A THOUSAND BUDS FLOWER, UNLEASHING TINGLING SENSATIONS AND LOVE IMPULSES THROUGH OUT MY VERY SYSTEM.
A KNOCK ON MY HEART, A STIRRING WITHIN AND I BECOME JELLY WITH LOVE FEELINGS.
THE COLLISION OF TWO HEARTS THAT BURST INTO THE UNEXTINGUISHABLE FLAME OF LOVE.
TWO IS ONE, ONE IS TWO.

The 2010 World Cup will put love to the test.

Wed, 28 Apr 2010 16:48:33 +0100

Dear Wife, (Girlfriend or Partner)
1. From 11 June to 11 July 2010, you should read the sports section of the newspaper so that you are aware of what is going on regarding the World of Soccer, and that way you will be able to join in the conversations. If you fail to do this, then you will be looked at in a bad way, or you will be totally ignored. DO NOT complain about not receiving any attention.
2. During the World Cup, the television is mine, at all times, without any exceptions. If you even take a glimpse of the remote control, you will lose it (your eye).
3. If you have to pass by in front of the TV during a game, I don't mind, as long as you do it crawling on the floor and without distracting me. If you decide to stand nude in front of the TV, make sure you put clothes on right after because if you catch a cold, I won't have time to take you to the doctor or look after you during the World Cup month.
4. During the games I will be blind, deaf and mute, unless I require a refill of my drink or something to eat. You are out of your mind if you expect me to listen to you, open the door, answer the telephone, or pick up the baby that just fell on the floor....It won't happen.
5. It would be a good idea for you to keep at least 2 six packs in the fridge at all times, as well as plenty of things to nibble on, and please do not make any funny faces to my friends when they come over to watch the games. In return, you will be allowed to use the TV between 12am and 6am, unless they replay a good game that I missed during the day.
6. Please, please, please!! If you see me upset because one of my teams is losing, DO NOT say "get over it, it's only a game", or "don't worry, they'll win next time". If you say these things, you will only make me angrier and I will love you less. Remember, you will never ever know more about football than me and your so called "words of encouragement" will only lead to a break up or divorce.
7. You are welcome to sit with me to watch one game and you can talk to me during halftime but only when the commercials are on, and only if the half time scores is pleasing me. In addition, please note I am saying "one" game; hence do not use the World Cup as a nice cheesy excuse to "spend time together".
8. The replays of the goals are very important. I don't care if I have seen them or I haven't seen them, I want to see them again, Many times.
9. Tell your friends NOT to have any babies, or any other child related parties or gatherings that requires my attendance because:
a) I will not go,
b) I will not go, and
c) I will not go.
10. But, if a friend of mine invites us to his house on a Sunday to watch a game, we will be there in a flash.
11. The daily World Cup highlights show on TV every night is just as important as the games themselves. Do not even think about saying "but you have already seen this...why don't you change the channel to something we can all watch?" because, the reply will be, "Refer to Rule #2 of this list".
12. And finally, please save your expressions such as "Thank God the Confederation & World Cup is only every 4 years". I am immune to these words, because after this comes the Champions League, Italian League, Spanish League, Premier League, FA Cup, PSL etc
Lastly. if you get stuck on the road when there is a match call Road Recovery don't call me. Forewarned is foreamed.

Dear Husband, (Boyfriend or Partner)
1. From 11 June to 11 July 2010 I will not be joining in when you talk about football and will not mind if you look at me in a bad way or totally ignore me, I will simply talk on the phone with my friends during the time you will be concentrating on football. (You will pay the phone bill as usual)
2. To avoid a fight over control of the remote control during the World Cup, I am going to buy a new 49 inch LCD screen TV and put it in the spare bedroom where I will be sleeping during the world cup. (Will use our credit card.)
3. Don't worry dear husband, I will not try to draw your attention or seduce you while you are watching the world cup, will get my conjugal rights from a dildo which I will buy online. (Will use our credit card )
4. During the world cup I will consider myself a single mother and will not ask anything from you or talk to you. If you need someone to bring you beer while you watch soccer, hire a house boy.
5. You will be non-existant in my life during the world cup and so will be your friends, don't expect me to greet them or act like the perfect host.
6. Lastly be forewarned that there are other men out there who are human and value love more than football and will be more than willing to be there for me during the world cup when you will be married to your soccer. I will see if I can repay their kindness in cash or kind.

Destined for greatness

Tue, 09 Mar 2010 13:01:46 +0100

My daughter Amanda has done it again, PASSED with distinctions.
"O" Level results
ENGLISH LANGUAGE    A
ENGLISH LITERATURE   A
RELIGIOUS STUDIES      A
GEOGRAPHY                 A
SHONA                          A
MATHEMATICS              A
INTEGRATED SCIENCE A
BIOLOGY                       A
PHYSICAL SCIENCE      A
FASHION & FABRICS     B
ACCOUNTS                    A

I am speechless with joy and pride

Everyone is worth listening to

Wed, 03 Feb 2010 14:48:21 +0100

Junior, a close friend of mine brings a positive energy and life into any room she enters. She focuses her entire attention on you and listens while you talk to her so much that you feel that she cares about you and appreciates you as a person and when she responds to you she shows that she is not judging you at all. She does this not only to her close friends and relatives but everyone she meets and as a result of this most people love Junior. Just by interacting with me in friendship Junior taught me a simple concept, so simple I couldn't believe I'd never known it. Prior to befriending Junior I tended to be withdrawn when in the company of strangers or of people whom I thought didn't like me, I was afraid that they would judge me wrongly and Junior taught me not to worry about being judged wrongly. She said those people were probably also worrying about how I would judge them and it was up to either them or myself to make the first move to bridge the gap between us and warm up to each other. Junior's words smarted and from that day onwards I became very sociable and instead of seeing judgement in the eyes of others, I recognised the need people have to make a connection and to share something about themselves. I discovered a world of people I never would have known otherwise. Each interaction I made with a person became an adventure of discovery, each person a lesson in life. The wealthy, the poor, the powerful and the lonely, all were as full of dreams and doubts as I and each had a unique story to tell, if only I had the ears to hear.

On a coach to Cape Town I began talking to a man everyone was avoiding because he was slurring his speech as if drunk. It turned out that he was recovering from a stroke. He took pains, talking like a toddler who is learning to talk to tell me his life experiences, told me that he had been staying in USA and the Recession of 2008 had gobbled down the drain all his retirement investments and he had resorted to feeding himself by firing his shotgun into a pond and gathering up the stunned fish that floated to the surface. When he had eaten all the fish that was in the pond and didn't know where to get his next meal he had a stroke and then his nephew and only living relative who stayed in Cape Town had to travel to USA to collect him and look after him. When we reached our destination and were about to disembark from the coach he grabbed my hand and looked into my eyes with tears in his eyes and said, "Thanks for listening, most people don't bother talking to me or listening to my slurred speech." He didn't have to thank me, the pleasure of listening to him had all been mine because I know that just by listening to other people's life stories I will be helping them to offload their emotional baggage. At one time a hair dresser shared with me the joy of watching the residents of an orphanage leap with joy after receiving a new hairstyle for free from her, the joy and pride that she had as she told me about it made me happy.

How often most people allow such opportunities to reach out and connect to other people just by listening to what they have to say, pass by. The girl who everyone thinks is homely, the boy with the odd clothes, all those people have stories to tell, as surely as you do and like you they dream that someone is willing to hear. This is what Junior knew all along, she knew that it was best to like people first and ask questions later. See if the light that you shine on others isn't reflected back on you a hundredfold.

The cellphone gap

Wed, 16 Dec 2009 15:51:08 +0100

No one appreciates the invention of the cellphone more than some of us who started dating at a time when cellphones had not yet been invented and had to make do with so many communication breakdowns. Now knowing that your loved ones are only a cellphone call away or an sms text message away where ever you will be really feels like heaven on earth. Communication has been made so easy and simple and many relationships have been nurtured and caused to bloom through cellphone communications. Most people have become addicted to the cellphone so much that without it they feel like a part of themselves has been severed. Yes cellphones have bridged communication gaps in relationships.

Just as much as cellphones have helped build relationships they have also helped to tear asunder relationships as some love partners when together were seen to concentrate more on their cellphone communications than on each other as illustrated by the photograph above. It is such behavior that creates what I choose to call a cellphone gap in love relationships. Or as the betrayal of unfaithful partners were found out through reading their cellphone text messages or listening to them conversing on their cellphones. Now there is a saying that if you want to know just how faithful and honest your love partner is just see if he/she is free to leave his/her cellphone with you without locking it, also notice if he/she answers the phone freely when he/she is with you. Unfaithful partners have been known to switch off their cellphones when they are with their partners or they don't switch off but would go and answer their cellphones away from where their partner can hear the conversation or if they do answer they keep on saying hello, hello as if they can't hear what the other person at the end of the communication link is saying. Oh, yes cellphones are tools that one can use to gauge if a love partner is faithful, honest and trustworthy, they tear down the fake love bridges in the relationship.

Cellphones are the best thing that ever happened to love relationships for they bridge the communication gap as well as tear down the fake love bridges in the relationship.

When speech is silent

Fri, 11 Dec 2009 09:10:41 +0100

Ever experienced a comfortable silence when speech would spoil the beautiful moment, a moment that requires you to
wallow in it in silence so that the experience really seeps into your mind, your heart and your soul and gets etched
there as a cherished moment? There are times when speech has to be silent for all the five senses to be pronounced.
A silent touch that says I am here for you for I care deeply about you. A silent look across a crowded room from your
partner that says I love you or I find you attractive. A silence after tasting food that says this is sub-standard or
mediocre cooking. A silence after hearing something, that says I choose not to contribute to such a conversation. A
silence that says I feel overwhelmed. Yes, silence can speak volumes.

It's not always that we need to speak, there are moments when our eyes speak for us, moments when our hands speak for
us or to put it simply moments when our actions speak for us. It is said that actions speak louder than words and that
is very true. Imagine having to tell someone that you love her or him with actions without saying, "I love you." How
would you do it? Believe me, whatever action you decide to use to convey the love will have more impact than simply
uttering the phrase, "I love you," because actions are more convincing than spoken words. When speech is silent
actions become very loud and clear.

Utter silence is far from being devoid of charm. Words can not convey the almost voluptuous sweetness of the
feelings experienced when mind and senses develop their sensibility in silence through continual observations and
reflections. In silence I am able to connect with myself and do some soul-searching without anything to make my
thoughts wander. The soul speaks its truth only under quiet, inviting, and trustworthy silent conditions for it is
like a wild animal, tough, resilient, savvy, self-sufficient, and yet exceedingly shy. If we want to see a wild animal,
the last thing we should do is to go crashing through the woods, shouting for the creature to come out. But if we are
willing to walk silently into the woods and sit silently for an hour or two at the base of a tree, the creature we are
waiting for may well emerge, and out of the corner of an eye we will catch a glimpse of the precious soul we seek.

WHEN SPEECH IS SILENT THE SILENCE SPEAKS VOLUMES

                                                         The beauty of nature is more pronounced in silence.